Use These Important Apps to Handle Your Abusive Relationship Better

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First of all, we are very sorry to know that you are in an abusive relationship. If you have just recently gotten out of one too, we are very happy for you – and equally sorry that you were subjected to such a relationship in the first place.

There are a lot of plans, motions and play in place to kick against domestic violence in our society today – but more needs to be done. With the rate at which technology is advancing, it’s good to note that tech is also finding applications in addressing domestic violence in its own way. 

Unfortunately, it does not offer a holistic fix to the problem, but it does help out too.

Should you ever find yourself in an abusive relationship, here are some apps we believe you should totally get.


This app is not solely for abuse victims, but it can do a lot for them nonetheless. It comes in handy when you are dealing with a partner that has made it their duty to cut you off from friends and family alike. It is also the ideal pick for when your messages are constantly being monitored by the abuser, but you still have to get some word out in some way.

Wickr does all these by allowing you send messages that self-destruct and wipe themselves off your phone after a pre-set time. This leaves no trace of any conversation ever happening at all, making it impossible for anyone to know who you reached out to or what you even said – even if they had unrestricted access to your phone.

The messages are also encrypted from your end, making it possible for you to send them to the other party under a great deal of anonymity.


This will be an especially great pick for when you have gotten out of an abusive relationship and are now living alone. 

What the app does is allow you set up a network of people who can serve as your safety net should you need urgent help. Your safety net can be made up of your friends in or outside the workplace, and even your family. The app allows you share your location with others seamlessly, making it easy for you to alert anyone to where you are if you need help.

Perhaps the best feature of the app is the one that sends a silent alarm to your safety network if you don’t check in with them at a certain time. This will come in handy in containing harmful situations before they escalate into something too serious at all.

Finally, you can get rid of stalkers and other unwanted presences by activating a fake call feature embedded in the app. Using it at the right time, you can always see that to get out of uncomfortable situations or scare a stalker away.

One Love My Plan

Abusive relationships can be defined in a number of ways, but it might sometimes be difficult for you to see it for what it is when you are still on the inside. 

Sometimes, it is your desire to always want to see the good in your partner that blinds you from this simple truth. At other times, it might come down to you blaming yourself for whatever is going on so much that you don’t even give much thought to the abuse going on.

It is also not uncommon to think that your partner is just going through a phase and they will soon snap out of it. All of these are purely emotional responses – but you shouldn’t be punished by your emotions, and One Love My Plan is there to make sure that doesn’t happen.

The app is an action-based program dedicated to helping you make an assessment of your relationship to see where you stand. It is friendly for different age groups – especially the dating range – and we advise that you take the assessment if you are not sure where your relationship is at.

Circle of 6

That this app won the White House award in the Apps Against Abuse category is enough to underline its importance for this particular use case. We also love the practicality of the app in that you can do a lot with only two taps on your mobile phone.

While the name implies that you might need a network of six people, only one is enough. If you do have more trusted contacts to add, you can go ahead and make them a part of your inner circle. 

Circle of 6 is still being improved for better functionality, but it currently supports sending a pre-programmed message to the contacts you set up with your exact GPS location. You can also set up the app to link you through with national help hotlines at the tap of a button.

Aspire News

What better way to ensure you are always safe while planning your escape from the abusive relationship than with an app which recognizes how precarious that situation is? This is what makes the Aspire News app stand out.

To the untrained eye, it is just a regular style news feed application that helps you catch up with the happenings of the day. When your abusive partner is not looking, the Help section of this app is a gateway to a ton of resources that you will surely find helpful.

These resources are based on how to determine whether your relationship is abusive or not, guides on how to get out of the relationship, and so much more.


All the apps suggested above are all dedicated to making it possible to cope with your relationship in the best way possible until you find the safest exit strategy. Likewise, we have ensured all the apps here are not only free but also compatible with both Android and iOS platforms.

While using these apps will help you gain clarity and manage the situation better, they are not the cure. Work towards getting out, because no one deserves to be in such a relationship.

Guest Post by Techwarn


Olawunmi Adegoke Shares 3 Tips On Dealing With Weaknesses

On this week's edition of dose on perspective, we share with you an opinion worth a good read. It is written by Olawunmi Adegoke, a budding Public Speaker and Self- Development Coach. Check out her thoughts on how to effectively overcome weaknesses in 3 simple steps.

She writes;
What’s that one thing that, if you overcame, will enable you to achieve your greatest dream? Could your weakness be fear, procrastination, or lack of self-motivation?

I have noticed that as individuals, we can easily pinpoint certain weaknesses that limit us from achieving our greatest desires.

But sometimes, people live in self-denial. Hence, they keep making the same mistakes over and over again. It is a very good practice to identify these things that make up for your weakness but it is more important to deal with them.

In this post, you’ll learn 3 practical ways to deal with any kind of weakness that may want to hinder your growth.

Identify Your Weaknesses
This means that you are aware that as an individual, you can point to things that are your weaknesses. Even when others are singing your praises, you know that some things need to be worked on. Even if you cannot personally identify them, speak to a mentor, friend, or someone who can give you a very honest evaluation of yourself.

Plan to Work on Your Weaknesses
I have learned from a mentor that the best way to practically achieve a goal, is to first set out an action plan of what to do. People keep living with negative self-limiting habits because they seldom make definite plans on what to do. They wish away what should happen – and wishes never get the job done. A good practice is to plan out a disciplined regime to help you deal with this habit. For example, in dealing with procrastination, your plan should be to do things immediately without wasting so much time over-analyzing the possibility.

Do it Any Way
Identifying and having a new growth plan is good. But much more than that, you need to take action to practically achieve the desired growth you want. Do what you want to do. The truth is, if you left to yourself alone without making a move, you will remain at the same spot, with the same self-limiting habits 5, 10, 15 years down the line.

In conclusion, we cannot be self-motivated at all times; we need a support system to help us out. To do this, I suggest that you speak to a mentor or close friend about your new plan. Speak to those who are concerned about your growth and can help you practically achieve it.

Culled from: Bella Naija


ALBUM: Concept Man – Lamarin Zuciya

Going up North in our quest for good, quality music, we stopped at the stable of a Bauchi state born and overly-gifted music producer best known as 'Concept Man' or as C Man for short.

He is one of the forces at the helm of affairs when it comes to music in Northern Nigeria where Hip-hop and R&B are steadily making the waves as compared to other regions in the country.

Concept Man has yielded to the great anticipation of Arewa music lovers by dropping an album he entitles LAMARIN ZUCIYA. The Hausa phrase 'Lamarin Zuciya' translates into “Matters/Affairs Of The Heart” in English.

The album consists of 12 tracks with features from Northern giants the likes of BOC Madaki and Stesh. The album contains mostly Hausa tunes which was produced in its entirety by Concept Man himself. 

Take a good listen. Download share and enjoy. Let us know your favourite track on the album



MUSIC: Henwilsen ft. Starsh - Ice

Check out this new track straight out of Jos city. It emanates from Henwilsen, a promising act under Nextworld Entertainment. The youngster features his label-mate Starsh, on this track he titled Ice.

Produced by Greezbeatz, this Afro-trap music describes a woman in one of the coolest ways you've ever heard. Take a listen.

Download, listen and share. Don't forget to leave us a feedback about the song and it's artwork, in the comment section below.


CONFERENCE: Attend The 3rd Annual Education Conference, Jos | #aec2019

Attend The 3rd Annual Education Conference, Jos | #aec2019
There have been myriads of changes in the education system in Nigeria. Research and practice reveals that these changes have not achieved the desired outcome for education in the country. Indeed, if Nigeria is to reach her desired Educational objectives and goals, which is to build: a free and democratic society, a just and egalitarian society, a united, strong and self- reliant nation, a great and dynamic economy and a land full of opportunities for all citizens, any reform must be effective and needs to be embedded in the diverse culture in the country. This conference provides a place and space for stakeholder dialogue to optimize potentials for diversity and Culture in the education system.

The conference will focus on Diversity, Culture and the Education system. With closer attention to highlighting the potentials of Nigerian diversity, culture and how this can optimize the education system. That is, does diversity, culture impact on education policy, curriculum, leadership and teaching and learning? It is hoped that the inferences from this conference will advance knowledge and skills necessary to provide every Nigerian Learner with a world class standard education they need to thrive in the 21st century.

Diversity, Culture and the Education System

1. Research that improves educational practice
2. Policy that drives culture and diversity in educational system
3. Diversity and culture that drives Leadership and governance in an Educational system
4. Technology and innovations that includes culture and diversity in educational system
5. Re-thinking curriculum design and development in terms of culture and diversity
6. Culture and diversity towards Equity and equality for inclusive education system
Academics, researchers, policy makers, curriculum developers, educational practitioners, Teachers, Parents, Graduate students, research fellows, development partners, Educational stakeholder, Education administrators, and all other key stakeholders.

Registration Fees
Early Bird: N8,500 Naira (Payment made BEFORE 20th September, 2019.)
Late registration: N10,000 Naira.

Bank Details
Bank: Diamond-Access
Account Number: 0030241812

Sarau Event Centre, Behind NTA, Jiyep, Jos


MUSIC: Eritrean Beauty, 'Ferow', Drops ‘For You’ Visuals Featuring Dremo | WATCH

'For You' by Ferow featuring Dremo is this Autumn’s independent track to listen out for. Exclusively released today, the track depicts the tale of unconditional love leaving you in a whirlwind of recognizable emotions. Produced by American natives Ace Harris & DJ Tag the sultry hit captivates you as the bass bursts through your speakers.

Born to Eritrean parents, while being raised in Atlanta, Georgia US, Ferow shows exciting promise by infusing R&B and Hip Hop with a touch of Caribbean flair and the obvious and dominant Afro Pop, which reigns throughout the track.
“My musical taste is very current, however I like to lead the way by mixing it up with many different cultural sounds that can relate to everyone. African vibes are what move me to the core.” Says Ferow.
Under the guidance of her manager Rozy Thiam (En-Treeg Records), Ferow is readying for her 2019 EP release Empress Of The Jungle, where you’ll get to learn more about her as an artist. 
“I’ve studied the business, I’ve worked with a lot of artists and I know what’s out there. My harmonious message focuses on championing independent women while being sexy and confident doing it. No matter what you do.”
Today we release the official single "For You" ft. Dremo and music video across the continent. Catch a glimpse of the video below


MUSIC: Czay - Okada

Jtown's sensational music wave god Czay has just dropped this Afro/Fusion special he titled #Okada as his first single of the year 2019. #Okada, which comes off his forth coming INCREDBL album, is a sure party starter. Listen to Czay's crisp vocals on a Mr. Kleb's beat. 

Download, Listen, Share, Enjoy and be sure to leave us a review of the track on the comment section of the blog.



EVENT: Bridgeup Africa Presents Business, Structure and Strategy Master Class | REGISTER HERE

Statistics have proven that a whopping 50% of businesses fail within their first 5 years of start up. Whereas another 20% fail in their very first year. One of the stumbling blocks for businesses is not setting the right structure in place before starting or in running the business. 

This is why we have put this in depth training to help business owners get their business modeling right. Business, Structure and Strategy is designed to solve 3 major business issues:

1. Business Modeling (how to properly run your business like a professional) 
2. Advertising (How to generate leads and make sales using Facebook) 
3. Strategy Development. 

What more? Participants of this training get to have a one on one branding consultation with one of the very best, Scrutiney Inc

Who can attend this training? 
- Business owners 
- Professionals (lawyers, doctors, etc) 
- Founders
- CEOs and so on. 

Training fee is N5,000 (usually N10,000). Discount is only available for team members. 

Date: Saturday, 27th July, 2019
Time: 9 am prompt

How To Register
You can buy your ticket to attend the training directly via or call/chat Adeyemi on 08064779666. 

An investment in oneself is the best form of business. This is one training you will be glad you attended.


EVENT: Attend 'The Link Up Jos' | Here's Everything You Need To Know

Tin City gather round! Here's a moment we have long been anticipating. Here's an opportunity to be part of something big. Attend 'The Link Up Jos' and experience entertainment on a whole new level. 

Clouded with an arena of fun, come and exploit brand promotion and connect with the big names and creatives in the Media, Arts, and Entertainment industry. Here is a great opportunity to showcase your talents and brands and who ultimately secure yourself a spot under the spotlight.

Come enjoy fun comedy, great music, theater and dance performances. Your favourite DJs would be on the deck for your thrills. You don't want to miss the dating game!!!

The Link Up Jos is powered by Mees Palace Jos (@meespalace) and proudly supported by Guinness, Hashtag Cafe among other brands.

The event will hold on the 23rd of June 2019 at the Largest event center in the heart of Jos, Mees Palace, along Rayfield Resort road, Rayfield Jos, Plateau state.

For reservations, enquiries, partnership or sponsorship call 08147796640. For vendorship call 09078624404

Please refer to flyer for tickets. Follow @kizzybukas on Instagram for more details and update.


WhatsApp Is Introducing Advertisements On Mobile Apps

As we all know, we have been running an ad-free WhatsApp since the social media platform was introduced in 2009. Things are however about to change as WhatsApp - the world's most popular third-party instant messaging app, plans to introduce adverts on their platform come next year 2020.

The plan was made announced during Facebook's recent Marketing Summit which held in Rotterdam. Facebook, who also own WhatsApp, have announced that they will commence running advertisements on WhatsApp next year 2020. 

It was pointed out at the summit that WhatsApp's Status feature will be displaying adverts when users try to view their contacts' status updates. There has been no confirmation to whether ads will appear as pop-ups or as slides or as suggested sponsored content as we have on Instagram Stories.

Be that as it may, as we go through the status updates of our WhatsApp contacts from next year, we should ready our minds to see advertisements which will fill up our screen space. But we might however be able to swipe up to view the contents on the adverts just as we do on Instagram.

We might be left to wonder if this could possibly mean the end of free WhatsApp. What other options could possibly replace this instant messaging giant effectively?

What do you think about this new update; Should we welcome this development? Kindly let us know by dropping your comments in the comment section below.


EVENT: Cluster4Kidz Presents Capacity Building Corporate Training 2019

Here's a chance for you to invest in yourself. Cluster4Kidz is offering you a chance to know where you fit by attending this capacity development Corporate Training. 

Don't miss out on learning how to evolve around work place ethics, values, vision and mission statement. Come and learn how to stay relevant to your corporate world.

The chief facilitator of this event is Dr. Chidi Idi Eke of the University of KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa. Consulting Director of Research & Development, Sash Business Management Limited

This capacity building training will be taking place at Cluster4Kidz Limited, Number 4 Dangana Street, Off Rayfield Road, Rayfield, in the Tin City of Jos, Plateau state on the 1st of June 2019 from 09:00am to 04:00pm.

Companies and individuals are free to attend. The cost of participating is #3000.

For more information kindly contact 07062542910


LIFESTYLE: How Microwaving Food Is Slowly Killing Us

My dearest reader, I am glad to have you here again. This post is not in any way meant to be a scare or deter you from your daily sweet life. It is just a call to awareness. If you have a different perspective to what you would be reading, kindly drop your opinion in the comment section below.

Our microwave ovens are gradually becoming part of our everyday life. As part of ease or to show class as the case maybe, it is now a common thing to find a microwave in households, eateries and other establishments.

The microwave oven is a powerful machine, with the capability of emitting up to two-thousand watts of electricity and heating food to over 200°F. It uses high-frequency radio waves (called microwaves) to make food molecules move very fast, thereby creating heat.

Dangers Of Microwaving Foods

Using the microwave might sure a fast way to get our meal ready. But it doesn't go without is downsides

While warming leftover food, making popcorn or defrosting meat we are exposing ourselves to little known dangers. It has been gathered that a lot new mothers use the microwave to heat up breast milk or formula for their infants.

Firstly, microwave radiation kills a major part of our food nutrients and makes our plastic containers to release toxic chemicals which are harmful to the body. It significantly decrease the nutritional value of food.

A research by Body Ecology (BE) revealed that microwaving food 

  1. Reduce levels of vitamin B 12 (Vitamin B 12 is essential for red blood cell formation, preventing anemia, and a healthy nervous system.)
  2. Decrease flavonoids by 97%! (Flavonoids have anti-inflammatory, anti-cancer, and anti-microbial properties.)
  3. Break down bacteria-digesting enzymes in breast milk. (Babies rely on enzymes from breast milk to establish a healthy inner ecosystem that digests food, absorbs nutrients and protects against pathogens.)
  4. Lower levels of sinapic acid derivatives (Sinapic acids scavenge for and neutralize free radicals, cancer-causing agents in your body.)
  5. Decrease antibody levels in breast milk (Antibodies in mother’s milk protect babies from infections.)
  6. Microwaving our foods can significantly alter levels of vitamins and nutrients that you need for a healthy body.
Secondly, another risk we face when using microwaves is that cancer-causing compounds from our plastic containers and plastic wraps can find its way into our food.

When microwaving food, do not let the plastic touch the food. Bisphenol A, is a toxic chemical which affects neural and reproductive development. It is present in some plastics and low doses of the chemical are linked to cancers, early puberty, obesity, and diabetes. It is advisable to not use anything plastic when microwaving our food.

Safe Way To Microwave Food

While I have tried to point out what experts have said about the dangers of using the microwave, it is important to note that, the best way to cure is prevention and as such, experts have recommended reduction of our dependencies on microwaves. Here are a few tips they have given

  1. Foods, especially fruits and vegetables, are best eaten raw, parboiled quickly or lightly steamed to retain nutrients.
  2. If you need to heat water for hot drinks and avoid microwave dangers, use an electric stainless steel kettle!
  3. If you must use plastics, do not heat them in the microwave. Look for polypropylene and polyethylene plastic containers if you do use plastics.
You do not have to subject yourself to microwave dangers. By choosing other methods to cook and store your food, you can be sure that your food will retain nutrients and be toxin-free.


MUSIC: Pcent - Oyi (Cover)

The name Pcent is gradually gaining grounds on the Nigerian music scene. The Nigerian Icon star has been working really hard to keep himself on top of his game and ahead of contemporaries.

He is here with a banging new hit - a cover to the song Oyi originally performed by 2Baba. To all lovers of good music, this saucy track is a must-listen.

Download, listen, enjoy and share. Be sure to drop your reviews in the comment section below.


LIFESTYLE: Avoid Embarrasment By Correcting These Simple Bad Habits

Dear reader, it's great having you here again. I trust you are well. I have culled a set of helpful living tips that would enable each and every one of us to stay on top of his or her own game regardless of social class or status.

These tips we gathered are sure to save you unnecessary embarrassment and pressure (any time, any day). We thought it nice to share it with you and we hope you share it with others because sharing is caring.

1. Let’s plan our lives and live within our means. Save more and spend less.

 2. Take advantage of food and fruits in season, its cheaper and you can be creative to create amazing meals.

3. Don’t copy your neighbor’s lifestyle, she earns well and her husband is a ‘big man’.

4. Don’t follow trends, wear clean well-ironed clothes and keep your hair neat. You would still look good.

5. Eat healthy meals and protect your family from mosquitoes to avoid going to the hospital always.

6. Some women buy food for their children every morning before going to school or even for the whole family, do you know it’s cheaper to cook at home?

7. Some people don’t earn much, but have DSTV at home, go for GOTV and upgrade when your income upgrades. It’s still the same CNN anyway!

8. Put your kids in schools you can afford because expensive schools don't guarantee good results. Just ensure they attend a good affordable school

9. Rent apartments you can pay for conveniently. Don’t live in a house you struggle to pay yearly.

10. A man whose wife is pregnant has good 9 months to prepare, same as the pregnant woman in question. They should even plan for the worse and only seek help when they can’t meet up.

11. Some problems in our lives don’t just pop up, if you don't own a home, we knew we would pay rents...So its not an emergency.

12. Keep your circle small, keep only friends that have senses!

13. Above all things, have the fear of God, have integrity, don’t be lazy and be prayerful.

14. Planning is the key, if you fail to plan, you plan to FAIL

15. Don't do more than your budget this new year, there is no award given to best family that wore an expensive cloth for the year

16.Don't be in competition with anyone...

17. The purpose of shoes and clothes are to make us smart and look good

Culled from: Facebook


BUSINESS: 'Joe Heman' Reveals 5 Annoying Set Of People That Ruin Businesses

Checkout this 5 Annoying People That Ruin Businesses
By: Joe Heman

One of the most important keys to running a successful business is hanging around successful and positive people. Unfortunately, after 7+ years running several small businesses, I have encountered 5 key and consistent traits in people that have hindered my business progress ranging from the overtly positive to the manic depressive. I have listed all 5 below and I hope that this article would help you identify these individuals so that you can cut them off real quickly - so you don’t waste as much time as I did with them.

Person #1: The Sycophant

Everything you do is great. You can do no wrong in their eyes. They always provide positive feedback even when something is clearly bad. They are normally family members and friends who don’t want to hurt our feelings…but they hurt our businesses instead. Some of their favorite words include “perfect” and “no issues at all.” Unfortunately too many entrepreneurs are attracted to these individuals because of their seemingly encouraging feedback.. but like wolves in sheep clothings these individuals are the greatest threat to your business. They make us feel comfortable and isolate us from the reality of our products. I am not saying positive feedback is bad, but your greatest way for a company to grow is through well structured and honest criticism. Stay away from the Sycophants!

Person #2: The Vampire, Leech and Blood Sucker

They want to get advice from you at all times of the day and drain your energy with incessant questions. But when you need their assistance or help they disappear. In biology we call that type of behaviour PARASITIC! You want to keep this people away from you and your business because their major goal is to take and take and take without giving and in the end your business will suffer! Surround yourselves with people who are willing to return the favor…in the end this cycle of support will help grow not just your business but their business. Stay away from blood suckers!

Person #3: The Cheap Skate

Everything is too expensive for them. If they are not getting it for free then it is not a deal. They are the first to disappear when a class or program requires payment. They are dangerous because their mind set is limited to the FREE and they would limit your business growth…by poisoning you with their self limiting thoughts. Now there is nothing wrong with doing things for cheap in your business…but there is a limit to where FREE and CHEAP can take you. For your business to grow you have to invest quality dollars into various aspects of the business and by hanging around people who flinch every time you spend money will slowly freeze your business growth.

Person #4: Mr. Advise

Aptly called Mr.Advise because these individuals are normally male…this is the person that has advice for every single idea you have! Problem is that they have never done it. And thus they would give you advice that seems good on the surface but is terrible in reality. One of my most critical rules to live by has and always will be…to primarily seek advice from people who have already done what I am seeking advice on! Simple but powerful. I cannot tell you the amount of times people have given me business advice that has ended up confusing me even more. And the one thing I noticed was that the source of my most confusing advice came from people have never done what they are advising on. Strive to stay away from the over advice giver…they may be using your business as an experiment. But if you have to listen to them…filter the data carefully!

If you want to go to Disney world, ask someone who has been to Disney world - Dale Wamsley

Person #5 Mr Negative

The sky is always falling in their world. Nothing you propose to them will ever work they are pessimistic about everything and discourage anything new or revolutionary. Avoid them at all costs! They would have killed the Facebook idea if they have a chance and would kill your new business idea before it even has a chance. They are the complete opposites of sycophants but are more dangerous as they can spread their negative energy into your business so much so that you begin to doubt the possible success of your business. Stay away from Mr. Negative!

In conclusion. we are pretty sure that at one point or the other in your business, you must have encountered quite a number of these individuals. If you have, kindly share your experiences with us in the comment section below.

Thanks as always for reading. We hope you have picked out one or two genuine lessons from this session. We also look forward to hearing from you.